Navigating Transitions With Ease From A Place Of Wholeness

Many times I hear that change or transition are 'heavy', 'hard', or 'difficult'. While it's fully possible (and natural!) to change or transition with ease. In this article I share how.

The Upheaval That Transitions Can Bring You

Something comes up that consumes all your attention ― a friend lashing out at you out of nowhere, a project that went well being stopped, or sudden feelings of anger you can’t address coming up. Before you know it, 15 minutes have passed, and an overwhelming number of thoughts are raging through your mind. It’s one of these days, with things like these piling up.

Biggest burden? The inner critical voice never seems to stop!

You’ve tried everything to solve it and to get it out of your system. You do all you can, and yet it doesn’t work ― even though you’ve tried to apply breathing techniques, worked on cultivating an abundance mindset, or followed courses on holistic health. As if you’re falling short and need to do more. Because you’re tired of feeling this way and have to solve this.

Especially stopping the negative inner judgments.

Fear and doubt lurk. Why does this keep happening? Your mind is constantly active, and a stream of worry, doubt, and concern tries to grab your attention. There’s no moment to truly enjoy, rest, and relax. This keeps happening. What’s wrong with me? You feel less motivated to take action, even with the things you love doing the most. Things just don’t feel right. Why can’t I enjoy the things I love doing the most?

Welcome to transitioning, where you leave an old version of yourself behind in order to welcome the new you. What you’ve done before felt limiting, and this needs to change. Each time you make a step forward, there seem to be hick-ups that aren’t supposed to be there. It’s clear where you want to go, a whole version of yourself that encompasses all of you. However, that doesn’t bring you the results you’re longing for.

And it sucks.

Where You Want To Be Once This Is Over

A freedom in your daily schedule to do what you truly want is a priority. To be released of constant worries or doubts related to deadlines, how to organize your day, and other people. Most importantly, no need to perform like someone you don’t want to be. It’s all residue from growing up, school, and family life, and old roles you’ve fulfilled before. Many life lessons you’ve learned, the value taken with you, now it’s time to move on.

You set boundaries and limits to what you let into your life and what you don’t. When something comes up, you know what truly deserves your attention and what links you to your old life. You feel what needs to be addressed and what you can let go of. By noticing what’s draining you or energizing you straight away. The moment you become aware, tensions leave your body. It’s so nice to feel alive and energized again!

And what a blessing to have a calm and clear mind.

Having your priorities clear means you know which problems are worth your time to solve and which need to go. You’re able to feel now what truly deserves your time, energy, and attention. What’s worth it? You choose what you want to create or experience and in what way. These are the challenges that are worth solving. Without a constantly active mind, it comes to you with ease. Creative solutions pop up quicker and easier when you need them the most. Once you take the first steps, the actions you need to take and solutions come your way.

The inner dialogue is positive and supports you.

You’ve got more time for the activities you love the most. Simply because you’re naturally relaxed, even under circumstances with high pressure. You truly enjoy life and all that it has to offer; you enjoy spending time with people who appreciate you, full of energy and vitality. That’s where you want to be all day long.

How Come You Don’t See Results Yet ― What’s Going On??

Even though it’s clear where you’re heading, most of the time, problems still come back. Someone you meet who reminds you of the friend lashing out at you, causing you to defend or explain yourself. An initiative you’ve started is going nowhere, like the project that was stopped. Or emotional turmoil absorbing your attention, as with the sudden bursts of anger. In the worst situations, it can feel like you’re back at the starting point. As if all the work has been for nothing. Returning to where you were is no option. How nice would it be to rise above all of that? So you come out stronger on the other side.

This is where you need to pause and realize it’s not up to you how long it takes to make a transition. Big changes and transformations in life require a complete rewiring of your brain and central nervous system. Especially when these changes or transformations are acute and demand that you do them now. There’s an urge behind it, overpowering any fear or doubt you’ve had before. You simply cannot fuck this one up.

The harder you push, the more it backfires. So, slow down.

Why? Because results are first felt within, underneath the surface. Your body knows way earlier than your brain what’s happening. While your mind is screaming for understanding and explanation, your body is recalibrating your entire existence. It gives off sensations of complete disinterest when you try to associate yourself with old friends, types of work, or even things that used to trigger your emotions. It’s enough, now it demands rest, calmness, and space. So that all parts of you that felt broken can be restored.

The lesson? Your mind won’t bring you the answers or results. Your external world won’t do that either.

Follow your heart instead. Notice how the rhythm of your breathing affects your heartbeat. Observe your movements and body posture when you’re doing simple tasks. Check in with your energy levels before, during, and after conversations.

That’s where your power lies and where you can make instant changes. Being aware is enough; your body auto-corrects itself to who you desire yourself to be. No active focus or intervention needed.

Become a visitor of your life, environment, and interactions instead. As if you’re being guided through a museum. Or ‘a day in the life of’, in this case, you and who you’re with in that moment. Whether the event is big or small, step in like this to contain your whole self. Even if you don’t know who that is yet. You’ll be redirected back on track when necessary. Most importantly, you step in whole and you step out whole. No more fragmentation or soul-shattering moments.

Make it non-negotiable.

Moving Through The Cycles Of Transition With Ease

Here’s the thing, while you’re working towards something new, all the old needs to be let go of. Including the good experiences that you were proud of before. You’re completely reforming the inner landscape. It’s an integrative process, going through all layers of your being. In case you’re trying to grasp the whole picture at once, it can be overwhelming. Or confusing if there are parts that contradict each other. On the other hand, if you dive into the details directly, it can be exhausting. In both ways, you’ll end up spinning in circles.

The good news? You don’t have to both, at all.

In the center, you can both zoom out and zoom in whenever needed. To see what’s connected to your old inner landscape and how you want it to be. While being present with any emotion, thought, feeling, or situation that comes up. Reminding yourself that these are temporary, they will pass. Creating an overview and looking at the bigger picture is a way to rise higher. To come out above any problem, trauma, or disease you’ve ever faced. And form a new vision of what you want your life to look like.

Note: Do you see the difference between ‘trying to grasp the whole picture at once’ and ‘creating an overview and new vision of what you want your life to look like’? The first implies that there’s a problem that needs to be dealt with. The second doesn’t; it provides a pathway where the problem doesn’t exist in the first place.

Once you’ve successfully done this, the details that need to be looked at will show up automatically.

• A widening gap between you and current relations

• A disinterest in certain topics during conversations

• Environments that feel off and draining

• Activities you’re no longer motivated to participate in

• Foods you don’t want to consume anymore

Feel the difference here as well: ‘getting exhausted by diving into all the details’ or ‘the details that need to be looked at will be shown to you’.

This is the space where your power lies. You’re being guided through the transition by your subconscious, which shows you exactly what you need to see right now. While you keep your eyes on the new version of yourself and your life. Awareness of things that no longer resonate is enough. Most of the time, there’s no further action needed. It’s being taken away from you. When you’re co-creating with God/Goddess/Creator from within, with your new vision, all the old problems are released back to God. To be transmuted into renewed energy, joy, confidence, and self-love.

From the center, you navigate between the highest heights and the deepest depths. Think big when you’re building something new and be specific when you let go of old stuff. Feel it from a state of presence. Each time you go through this, your presence deepens. In case you need to end something, you know exactly what to do. And more importantly, the strength and urge you have within with your new image is way stronger than any fear that pops up. You’re stepping in as a whole being and stepping out as a whole being.

What You Can Expect While Moving Through Changes

Persistence is key, sticking to your intentions. However, that’s easier said than done. Because persistence in one phase can be entirely different than another. It’s important to be aware of what you’re dealing with, what’s normal, and what’s not, to position yourself.

Instead of trying to understand this, it’s better to look at the basic principles. These are your navigation points.

Growth, learning, healing, and transformation all go through the same cycles:

1. The physical phase, described as a need for nourishment in the form of good thoughts, nutrients, words, and actions.

2. The mental phase, described as a need for protection in the form of consistency, strong boundaries, saying ‘no’ more often than ‘yes’, and a solid mental structure.

3. The emotional phase, described as a need for empowerment in the form of confidence, self-expression, self-trust, and seeing the first signs of success.

4. The spiritual phase, described as a need for initiation in the form of integrating all things learned into daily life.

Remember that you want to embody your new image from the start. Meaning that you ARE that already, even before you start a transition from old to new. If you do the embodying along the way, it will be a bumpy ride with many obstacles. Doing the hard work first makes life so much easier. So start with that in mind. Reshape your inner landscape upfront, then notice what comes up during every phase.

Letting go of the old and welcoming the new becomes so much easier now!

Physically, it’s about taking the first actions. From the starting point of what you want to embody. So, literally thinking, speaking, and doing things aligned with where you’re heading. At the same time, move away from what you did before. By creating a gap between the two, physical discomfort can arise. Especially when people are involved whom you need to let go of. This is your body helping you by saying, “I’ve got your back, you can do this”. Before you start your day, interaction, or activity, tune into your new vision and what it feels like. Tap into the joy, liveliness, and inner peace you feel. Whenever discomfort arises, you know that these good feelings are beyond that. It’s worth it to be present with the discomfort and let the physical resistance go.

Big bonus: when you’ve done this multiple times, chances are that you pick up on feelings from others. Like feeling good, and all of a sudden, heaviness creeps in. After leaving a space, conversation, or activity, the heaviness leaves with it, and you feel good again. The feelings and discomfort weren’t yours in the first place! And probably not in the past, you were absorbing the tension of others around you.

Mentally, it’s about discipline, which can be a distracting word, since it implies active focus. While discipline is only needed with taking action, not thinking about taking action. This is the phase where doubts, fears, and worries can get louder, or the inner critic can go all the way to grab your attention. Following through despite this is vital. You’ve made your choice, now it’s shown to you what you’re leaving behind. All the stress and problems you’ve carried around for so long now want to come up, ready to be released for good. Return to the feeling practice as with the physical phase. This time, add a new layer by observing your movements, body parts, and posture. You’ll notice that your body auto-corrects itself. That’s because you’re shifting from the destructive doubts, fears, and worries into a state of presence.

Big bonus: as with picking up on feelings from others, so you can with thoughts and mental feedback loops. For example, being around someone and noticing negative thoughts swirling around your head. Once the person is gone, things turn back to normal. This is such a gift, because the people, places, and activities that are draining you show themselves. If you had thoughts that things were off, you were right. You can let go now; there are better things ahead of you.

Emotionally, it’s about passing the tipping point, from old to new. Even though the strongest and deepest emotions can come up now, you’re prepared. The thickest attachments will do anything to drag you back, but only if you look from that perspective. Here, the attention is turned towards confidently expressing what you embody now. Finding new people come your way who truly support you. There’s time for emotional self-regulation; the activities you do are the outlets for that. This can be really calm, like drawing, cooking, or swimming. Or more intense, like bouncing, exercise, or a lively jam session.

Big bonus: emotions that aren’t yours will be more prominent. The more peaceful and confident you become, the more obvious it is when someone else is stuck. Suppressing feelings and emotions while walking around like everything is okay. Even more so, you’ll be able to point in your body where it’s located. Anger that fires up the liver or guilt contracts the heart space. So, stop taking things personally; it wasn’t about you in the first place. Stick to who you are instead.

Spiritually, it’s about uplifting your state of being, as in who you are in this moment. By embodying this from the start, you’ve set a new standard to live from. No matter what others think about you, you’ve stuck to it. Now you have come out the strongest and want to maintain this wherever you go next. It’s a time to celebrate by looking back at all you’ve learned and the growth you’ve undergone. To create space for the next cycle, where YOU make the choices. The old layers of conditioning, trauma, or pain are gone. You are in the lead now, no doubt about it!

Big bonus: old things no longer show up. Even if they do, you can observe it from a neutral standpoint. You’ve risen above it, like you intended to. It’s so easy now to spot who and what resonates. Instead of a need to react to everything that wants your attention, you are more selective. Resulting in having time, energy, and attention for what you truly want.

Noticable Changes After A Successful Transition

In order to navigate between the bigger picture (new image) and details (the old), you need to practice starting from and returning to the center. That’s your heart space, where direction comes toward you. From a neutral standpoint, where the feelings within are strong signs of resonance or contraction. Without a need to understand, a pathway opens up, showing you the next action steps in front of you.

It’s simultaneously a complete letting go of resistance and a full trust that only the best will come out of this. That’s radical in and of itself, whether it’s your first time or if you’ve done it before. Since it’s a full surrender to what you’re creating now. And at the same time, acknowledging what or who you’re leaving behind, doing so without hesitation. The art lies in realizing that temporary feelings and emotions rushing through you will pass. Turmoil within or around you can only affect you when you’re pulled off center. Either towards wanting to know and control exactly where you’re going. Or towards tiny details from the past, absorbing all your attention.

Remember that this no longer affects you, so move on with ease.

In the center, from the heart space, you can practice embodying your new vision. By directing your attention to what creates space and ease in your body. The more you do this, the easier your attention becomes fully available to you. Instead of the need to actively focus. Your mind moves to the background and your heart steps forward.

These are switches that you’ll notice:

• From rushing and always busy to taking your time to rest and recover

• From impatient to patient

• From rationalizing to trusting your instincts

• From distracted to being present

• From stressed out to grounding yourself

• From certainty and control to working with uncertainty and change

• From sitting still all day to moving your body

• From narrow perspective to broadening your view

• From tolerating stress and tension to relaxing your body and muscles

• From anxiety to inner peace

• From self-critical to loving yourself

Do you feel the space it gives off? You’re on the receiving end now. Listening to what comes from within and what wants to come out of you. Instead of constantly giving to the outer world, you decide what you step into. From your unique perspective, you now share what you value.

Navigate from this space before you undergo transitions, transformations, and changes. Keep returning to it during the transition. Until you’ve integrated each part of you. It makes your life so much easier.

Reform your inner landscape first, and your outer world changes with it. It’s a silent journey; results aren’t visible on the outside at first. The further you come with your transition, the louder it speaks for itself. You no longer need to explain yourself. Your presence does the talking for you.

And that’s where you want to be.

How You Can Work With Me

As a Coach, I guide you through your biggest life transitions. Together, we map out the inner landscape first, of how you want your life to look like. The directions and action steps to follow show up from there. I’m here for you if you’ve got a strong inner critic that keeps you from taking action. By reshaping how you see yourself, the mind supports you.

Preparing you to move through all phases of your transition with ease is my main goal. So that you can enjoy the journey and come out as the strongest version of yourself.

You can request more information or a free call via info@foodforcreativity.com